There are two prominent voices in our heads, the voice of Love and the voice of Fear. The voice of Fear is usually the loudest, the most persistent, and stops us dead in our tracks. She is paralysing.
Like a child being ignored their request, your voice of Fear will throw herself into every imaginative situation you create that she can find cracks in.
She’ll throw a tantrum, turn up her dramatics and not pipe down until she gets what she wants.
To be heard.
While she sounds like a self-absorbed pain in the ass, she’s actually just doing her job, telling you all of your reasons why you should stay exactly where you are in your little comfort zone and to not grow into your dreams. You know comfortable, you are safe in comfortable. Don’t leave comfortable, because I can’t protect you when you leave comfortable.
You are not worth it.
You are not good enough.
You are only going to fuck it up.
You will look like an idiot.
You are going to fail.
When you succeed you won’t know how to handle that power.
You don’t have the time, the skills or the money.
We all have this voice in our heads. She’s not uncommon, and she is running the world as we know it, without the majority actually knowing it.
How many times a day are we the voice of fear?
Don’t eat that….
No you can’t, be quiet…
Don’t do that…
Can’t afford it…
Being the voice of fear is a totally different blog post, but the good news is the more aware we are at distinguishing the differences of our internal dialog, the more we can make those conscious choices over the direction we take next, and the influence we have over others.
We don’t have to let her run our lives, but we do have to respect her rights, and if she’s untamed she usually speaks first. Listening to her will be fairly quick. Ignoring her will take forever.
This process I read in an excerpt from Bob Proctor’s book You Were Born Rich.
Next time you have a world dominating idea, or any idea for that matter and you are working out how this idea could take shape, draw up two columns on a blank page. Why I Can’t and How I Can.
In the Can’t column, put lines through it, a big cross, colour it in, fill it up so there is no room to write down any reason why your idea cannot work.
Then start brainstorming.
Every time you have a reason why your idea won’t work, speak it out loud, with respect, and then say NEXT!
You have no room to write it down, so just keep your thoughts and ideas flowing.
You give her her right to be heard, and while she might come back with the same reason a few times over, that’s perfectly ok, keep going. Keep persisting. Thank her for wanting to keep you safe if she demands more recognition, but keep going until you start to get a flow of inspirational ideas of how your idea can come to shape.
When you have your list of How I Can, start taking action with it. Execute.
That voice is the voice of Love, the voice of the fragment of God and Universe you have within you that will guide you. She is there to be the light on your path, and she waits, ever so patiently, for your voice of Fear to be heard, so she can also be heard.
If you try to stop your voice of Fear, you stop the flow, and in turn can also stop your voice of Love.
Life is much better in flow baby, don’t you agree?